Friday, August 7, 2015


It's been years since we did our planning post on MOM'S 80TH USING MEMORY DECOR and in the interim, I've posted about my Father-in-Law's 80th Birthday Party HERE  and we covered several other special events Reba did.  This particular party just had a LOT of material to cover, and maybe the post was getting too ambitious (I tried to add a video clip from the party CD before realizing it wasn't needed) so here, finally, is our mom's party post.

THE INVITATION.  Reba came up with the idea of a pull out invitation and our sister, Elsa, & I loved the idea.  We found some great photos to capture our mom's life and Reba made an adorable poem for the invitation.  The cover photo of our mom as a child was captioned, "This Baby" and it opened to a picture of her in her 20s "Grew Up To Be This Lady", the facing page had a photo of our parent's wedding captioned "Who Married This Man", the pages opened to a wide shot of a family portrait captioned "And Had This Family" and the last photo was a recent portrait captioned "Now This Baby is 80!" 

ANOTHER  VIEW OF THE INVITATION.  If you want to do this type of invitation, I will admit it was a bit of a project. We had to edit the photos to make them high quality enough for the invitation, and change their size. We even had to photoshop in our nephew who missed the last family portrait to include everyone.  The photoshop worked great and no one noticed the difference, but it was another step.  We also had to try out different fonts and we didn't do this ourselves. Reba had a local advertising company do the layout, do mockups and print the final invitations.  Even so, there were multiple drafts before the invitation was just right.  I know there are tons of talented DIY crafters who could make this invitation, but I want to warn you the multiple pages do make it harder than a typical pull out.  I will say the guests RAVED about the invitation.  We got several phone calls of admiration and my mother thought it was very clever.  So, for us, it was worth the effort and time. 
THE GUEST OF HONOR TABLE.  The color scheme for the party was cobalt blue and yellow.  We discussed selecting it HERE This color combination seemed fitting for several reasons.  They were the colors our mom used for her 2 local election campaigns and then, we adopted them to advertise our family business.  Additionally, my mother's favorite flowers are yellow roses and we live in Texas where outstanding women are sometimes called "yellow roses of Texas."  It just seemed right.  The rented tablecloths and napkins were blue. The silverware was provided by the caterer. The plate chargers were gold.  For this table, Reba used our mom's blue and gold china, Noritake Vienna & her own cobalt blue goblets.   Small cobalt blue votive candle holders were placed around the yellow rose centerpiece.  The crystal vase for the centerpiece was also Reba's.   At each place setting, a cupcake with a yellow rose was placed.  The tables cards were named after streets where our mother lived or from neighborhood streets.  The table & gold chairs were rented locally.
ANOTHER VIEW.  In this photo, you can see Reba left a Proust Questionnaire for each guest to give them an activity while they waited. If you'd like a similar activity, I'd suggest a questionnaire about the honoree's life and make it a whole group game.   
SEAT OF HONOR.  The caterer suggested a bouquet of flowers and a sash to distinguish our mom's chair and I thought it was a fantastic idea. 

THE GUEST TABLES.  These had the same tablecloths, napkins, flatware, plate chargers, votive candle holders & yellow rose cupcakes as the guest of honor's table.   White scalloped plates and clear goblets from the caterer were used instead of family china & goblets and the centerpieces had yellow lillies instead of roses.

THE MEAL.  We served salad, ceviche and Mexican food for dinner.  We knew we were going to  have Mariachis play at the end, so we thought it was a good choice that most everyone would like.

RECEPTION TABLE. When guests arrived, they were directed to this table to find their place cards and table assignment.  In lieu of gifts, we asked guests to write a note to our mother.  Reba brought a blue & white ceramic bowl on a gold base for the guests to leave their notes and placed one of our mother's blue & white ceramic elephants beside it.  Our mother LOVES elephants which she has collected for good luck my whole life. It was a small touch, but the party guests were my mother's closest friends and they would likely know the personal significance of the elephant.  I thought it was particularly clever of Reba to do that.  Beside the bowl, I placed our mother's initials decoupaged in black and white photos.

MEMORY DECOR PROJECT #1. I made a collage in the shape my mom's age.  3 years ago when we had the party, this was still a pretty new idea.  I picked great black & white photos and got to it. I used 2 large gold frames & backed them in blue velvet.   My mom and her guests enjoyed seeing looking over her old photos.
WE GONNA NEED A BIGGER BOWL & MEMORY DECOR PROJECT #2.   We didn't expect so many notes, but guests wrote the most AMAZING letters to my mom.  For several days after the party, my mom was still reading them and asking us to let her read passages aloud to us.  Then, my mother would call people to thank them for what they had written and several of these phone calls ended in joyful tears.  It really extended the afterglow of the celebration.  Months later, my mom came upon her stash of letters and began reading through them again and then, stopping to talk to me about whatever was written.  This has happened at least 3 times with the two of us since the party and I don't even live in the same town anymore.  She truly treasures them.  The decoupaged letters are my mom's initials and some of her friends just call her by them.   I was expecting them to stand up, but the balance seemed off once they were decoupaged so I had to lay them on the table.  In hindsight, I probably would have chosen bigger letters to make a bigger impact or skipped this project. 

FINDING THEIR SEAT. Our sister, Elsa, helped my mom's friends find their place cards.  It wasn't a big party. It was mostly close family and friends, but my mom wanted to include a few more people who help make her life special and we were lucky quite a few were able to join us. She had the ladies who have done her hair and nails for many years, her physical therapist, priests who have moved away, friends from grade school and cousins she hadn't seen in many years all there for the special night.
VIDEO MESSAGES.  While guests were finishing dinner, our sister, Elsa, introduced a special video we had made for the party.  My father, my siblings, our other halves, our kids and a few close friends all sat for interviews with a videographer before the party.  We were asked for a funny story, a heartfelt story and a birthday message for our mother.  There was a LOT of footage with all those people, so only the funny messages were used.  All the raw footage was saved on a CD for my mom to enjoy later.  It was funny and highly emotional to see what we all had to say about Mom.  For my father-in-law's 80th birthday party, my niece made a music video with photos and I thought that added a lot to the party.  If you're planning a big special party, I would strongly suggest trying to make something like this.  It was definitely a highlight of the night.  I saw both my parents wiping their eyes while watching it.  For our father's birthday later that year, we made him a tribute video as well. 
THE TOAST.  After the video, our sister, Elsa, lead the toast to our mother.
THE LADY OF THE  HOUR SPEAKS.  After the toast, my mom thanked everyone for attending and commented about how blessed she has been.  

OUR PARENTS SMILING AT THE PARTY.  They will be married 60 YEARS this December!
Blowing out the candles on the birthday cake with the grandkids and a surprise mariachi band.  The cake was a large white sheet cake with yellow roses and blue ribbon icing.  With all the other details to cover, the cake was kept pretty straightforward. 



ENDING ON A HAPPY NOTE.  As the last guests left, our family stayed to take photos.  Reba was writing a check to the bartenders when our other sister, Elsa, started a dancing line.  When the party was over, I told Reba she had done a great job.  Everything was as I hoped it would be. It was the wonderful 80th birthday party that our wonderful mom deserved.